Get rid of inferiority complex with 4 tips to build children’s self-confidence

Written by: Director of Curriculum and Training, FQ Education Association
Mr. Johnny Kwan

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Parents always hope that their children can become optimistic, positive and confident people. But today, there are more and more children with psychological inferiority complex. How should parents deal with it? In fact, to build children’s self-confidence, you can refer to the following 4 methods.

Find out the cause and prescribe the right medicine.
Many children’s inferiority complex is not born from nature, but is caused by adults’ improper teaching. Some psychologists pointed out that many primary and secondary school students have weak self-awareness and often evaluate themselves based on adults’ opinions of themselves. Even if they have independent opinions, they are often one-sided.

Therefore, during this period, if teachers and parents improperly evaluate children’s abilities, it will hurt the child’s self-esteem and self-confidence, and easily cause the child to develop a sense of inferiority. Moreover, some parents criticize their children’s behavior a lot and nag them all day long. This kind of excessive evaluation can also cause their children to have a sense of inferiority. Some children will develop an inferiority complex due to poor academic performance or poor physical health. Therefore, when a child develops an inferiority complex, it is important to first analyze the cause.

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The requirements must be appropriate and the evaluation must be reasonable.
When parents help their children overcome their inferiority complex, they must understand their abilities and levels, make appropriate demands, and give reasonable evaluations. For example, if some children fail all exams, parents can first ask them to pass a certain subject. If the child meets the requirements, parents should give affirmation and encouragement before making further requirements.

During this process, parents should not worry about their children’s recurrences, and should not act too hastily. They should affirm their children’s hard work, patiently analyze the reasons for their children’s recurrences, and encourage their children to go all out. Only in this way can children see that they are making progress step by step, see the achievements they have made through hard work, enhance their confidence, and overcome their inferiority complex.

Broaden your horizons and increase your knowledge
When children with inferiority complex are related to their similar lack of knowledge and short-sightedness, when children of similar age get together, some talk about everything and talk vividly; some know nothing, are speechless, and have no knowledge. Children will naturally feel inferior when compared with others. Therefore, parents should consciously enrich their children’s knowledge, broaden their horizons, and improve their various abilities.

Parents can guide their children to read, take them to visit, etc., so that their children can also feel that they have knowledge, ability, and even no worse than others, so that they will gradually eliminate their inner inferiority complex.

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Use magical methods to encourage
Parents help their children overcome their sense of inferiority, and the most important thing is to respect and protect their self-esteem. For example, when a child’s test scores are unsatisfactory, parents should be considerate of their child’s mood, put themselves in their shoes, help their children analyze the reasons, and formulate measures rationally, instead of being emotional, sarcastic, sarcastic, blaming and complaining.

Criticism often has little effect on children with inferiority complex. On the contrary, praise and encouragement can often achieve unexpected results. Therefore, when children make progress, parents should praise and encourage them in time; when children have problems, parents should also affirm the positive aspects. This will not only help them rebuild their confidence and overcome difficulties, but also enhance the relationship between the two generations, which can be said to kill two birds with one stone.